Oof, girl, when a guy says “come over,” you gotta be careful!
That can mean all sorts of things, and not all of them are good.
I know it can be exciting when a cute guy invites you over, but you really gotta think about what he might be after.
A lot of the time, when guys say that, they’re just looking to hook up.
They don’t really care about getting to know you or having a real connection.
They just want, you know, a good time. And that’s fine if that’s what you’re into too.
But a lot of girls end up feeling used or disappointed afterwards.
The other thing is that going to a guy’s place, especially if you don’t know him that well, can be kind of risky.
You don’t know what the situation is gonna be like or who else might be there.
It’s always better to meet in a public place first, so you can get a feel for the guy and make sure you’re comfortable.
My advice?
If a guy you like says “come over,” try suggesting grabbing coffee or going to the movies instead.
That way you can get to know him a bit before taking things further.
And if he gets pushy or makes you feel weird about not wanting to come over, then he’s probably not worth your time anyway, girl.
You deserve someone who respects you and your boundaries.
Flirty and Witty Responses to Come Over Text From A Guy
1. “I’ll be there in a heartbeat. But only if you promise to behave yourself ;)”
Sometimes, the direct route is the best route.
Let him know you’re interested, but make sure he knows you’re not going to fall for any tricks.
2. “Hmm, I might consider it… if you can handle my irresistible charm.”
Keep him guessing with a hint of mystery. Let him know you’re intrigued, but he’s got to work for your attention.
3.”Sure thing! But first, tell me your best joke. If it’s good enough, I might just grace you with my presence.”
Make him work for it! Show him you’ve got standards and a sense of humor.
4. Oh, darling, you know I’d love to grace you with my presence. But only if you’ve cleaned up your place. A girl needs her standards.”
Flattery will get you everywhere. But remind him that you’re not just going to show up for anyone.
5. The Curious Cat: “Why? What’s in it for me? ;)”
Keep him intrigued by asking what he’s got planned. Make him work for your attention.
6. The Challenge: “You’ll have to convince me. What’s your best offer?”
Make him prove why you should come over. Show him you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
7. The Flirty Banter: “Hmm, tempting offer. But I’m not sure you can handle all this sass.”
Keep the conversation light and playful. Let him know you’re interested, but you’re not going to make it easy for him.
8. The Mysterious Vibe: “Maybe… if the stars align just right.”
Keep him guessing with a touch of mystery. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to work for your attention.
9. The Busy Bee: “I’d love to, but I’ve got plans… Unless you can convince me otherwise.”
Let him know you’ve got a life outside of him. Make him work for your attention.
10. The Flirty Challenge: “Hmm, you’ll have to sweeten the deal a little more than that.”
Keep him on his toes by making him work for your attention. Let him know you’re interested, but you’ve got standards.
11. The Confidence Boost: “Well, I was just about to curl up with a good book. But for you? I might make an exception.”
Give him a little ego boost by showing him you’re willing to make an exception for him. But make him work for it!
12. The Witty Comeback: “Is that your best attempt at wooing me? You might need to try a little harder.”
Keep him on his toes with a witty response. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to work for your attention.
13. The Cheeky Flirt: “Oh, you want me to come over? You must miss me already. Well, who am I to deny you?”
Show him you’re interested, but make him work for it. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
14. The Tempting Tease: “Hmm, the offer is tempting, but I’ll need a little more persuasion. Care to try your luck?”
Keep him intrigued by dangling the bait. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to work for your attention.
15. The Playful Challenge: “Oh, you want me to come over? You better have something exciting planned to keep up with me.”
Challenge him to step up his game. Let him know you’re not just going to show up for anyone.
16. The Flirty Negotiator: “I might consider it, but only if you promise to bring your A-game.”
Negotiate terms and make him work for your attention. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to meet your standards.
17. The Hint Dropper: “Hmm, I could be persuaded… if you play your cards right.”
Drop a subtle hint that you’re interested, but make him work for it. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
18. The Sassy Rebuttal: “Come over? Sounds like someone’s eager. But let’s see if you can keep up with me first.”
Keep him on his toes with a sassy comeback. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself.
19. The Curiosity Pique: “Why don’t you give me one good reason why I should grace you with my presence?”
Make him work for it by asking for a reason. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to convince you.
20. The Flirty Banter: “Hmm, I might be persuaded… if you can handle a little competition.”
Keep the conversation light and playful. Let him know you’re interested, but you’re not going to make it easy for him.
21. The Challenge: “Come over? You’ll have to impress me first.”
Challenge him to step up his game. Let him know you’re not just going to show up for anyone.
22. The Cozy Invitation: “I’m already snug as a bug in a rug, but for you? I might be persuaded to venture out.”
Show him you’re interested, but make him work for it. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
23. The Flirty Tease: “Oh, you want me to come over? You better have something interesting planned.”
Tease him with the prospect of your presence. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to make it worth your while.
24. The Selective Response: “Hmm, tempting offer. But I only grace certain individuals with my presence. Are you up for the challenge?”
Let him know you’ve got standards and make him work for your attention. Show him you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy.
25. The Flirty Negotiation: “I might consider it… if you’re willing to meet my demands.”
Negotiate terms and make him work for your attention. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to meet your standards.
26. The Coy Tease: “Oh, come over? You must be feeling brave today. Let’s see if you can handle me.”
Keep him intrigued with a hint of mystery. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy of your time.
27. The Flirty Challenge: “Come over? Hmm, you’ll have to impress me first. Show me what you’ve got.”
Challenge him to step up his game. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy of your time.
28. The Selective Invitation: “I might consider it, but only if you promise to bring your A-game. Can you handle that?”
Let him know you’ve got standards and make him work for your attention. Show him you’re interested, but he’s got to meet your expectations.
29. The Tempting Teaser: “Oh, you want me to come over? Well, you’ll have to sweet talk me first.”
Tease him with the prospect of your presence. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to put in the effort to win you over.
30. The Playful Banter: “Come over? Hmm, I’ll need a little more convincing than that. What do you have in mind?”
Keep the conversation light and playful. Let him know you’re interested, but you’re not going to make it easy for him.
31. The Sassy Response: “Come over? Are you sure you can handle my company? It’s not for the faint-hearted.”
Keep him on his toes with a sassy comeback. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy of your time.
32. The Flirty Negotiation: “I might consider it… if you’re willing to meet my demands. What do you say?”
Negotiate terms and make him work for your attention. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to meet your standards.
33. The Coy Invitation: “Hmm, I might be persuaded to come over… if you can persuade me.”
Keep him intrigued with a hint of mystery. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy of your time.
34. The Challenge: “Come over? You’ll have to work for it. Impress me, and maybe I’ll consider it.”
Challenge him to step up his game. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
35. The Flirty Banter: “Oh, you want me to come over? Well, you’ll have to make it worth my while.”
Keep the conversation light and playful. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to put in the effort to win you over.
36. The Selective Response: “Hmm, tempting offer. But I only grace certain individuals with my presence. Are you up for the challenge?”
Let him know you’ve got standards and make him work for your attention. Show him you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy.
37. The Cozy Invitation: “I’m already snug as a bug in a rug, but for you? I might be persuaded to venture out.”
Show him you’re interested, but make him work for it. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
38. The Flirty Tease: “Oh, you want me to come over? You better have something interesting planned.”
Tease him with the prospect of your presence. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to make it worth your while.
39. The Curious Cat: “Come over? What’s the occasion? I might be persuaded if you can make it worth my while.”
Keep him guessing by asking for details. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to make it enticing.
40. The Witty Comeback: “Oh, you want me to come over? Are you prepared to handle my irresistible charm?”
Keep him on his toes with a witty response. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy.
41. The Flirty Challenge: “Come over? Hmm, you’ll have to impress me with your charm and wit first.”
Challenge him to step up his game. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
42. The Selective Invitation: “I might consider it, but only if you can guarantee a night filled with laughter and fun.”
Let him know you’ve got standards and make him work for your attention. Show him you’re interested, but he’s got to meet your expectations.
43. The Tempting Tease: “Hmm, tempting offer. But you’ll have to wine and dine me first.”
Tease him with the prospect of your presence. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to put in the effort to win you over.
44. The Playful Dodge: “Sure, I’ll come over… if you can solve this riddle first.”
Make him work for it by throwing in a playful challenge. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself.
45. The Flirty Negotiator: “I might consider it… if you can meet my demands. Think you’re up for the challenge?”
Negotiate terms and make him work for your attention. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to meet your standards.
46. The Sassy Rebuttal: “Come over? Sounds like someone’s eager. But let’s see if you can keep up with me first.”
Keep him on his toes with a sassy comeback. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to prove himself worthy.
47. The Flirty Banter: “Oh, you want me to come over? Well, you’ll have to entertain me with your best jokes first.”
Keep the conversation light and playful. Let him know you’re interested, but you’re not going to make it easy for him.
48. The Challenge: “Come over? You’ll have to work for it. Impress me, and maybe I’ll consider it.”
Challenge him to step up his game. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
49. The Cozy Invitation: “I’m already snug as a bug in a rug, but for you? I might be persuaded to venture out.”
Show him you’re interested, but make him work for it. Let him know you’re not just going to drop everything for anyone.
50. The Flirty Tease: “Oh, you want me to come over? You better have something interesting planned.”
Tease him with the prospect of your presence. Let him know you’re interested, but he’s got to make it worth your while.
How to Respond When a Guy Says Come Over
1. Close Friend or Casual Acquaintance
If the guy is a close friend or someone you know well, and he’s asking you to come over during a reasonable time,
it’s likely he just wants to hang out or catch up.
In this case, you can respond by saying something like, “Sure, what’s the plan?”
or
“I’d love to! What did you have in mind?”
This shows that you’re open to spending time together and gives you a chance to confirm the details.
2. Crush or Someone You’re Dating
If the guy is someone you have feelings for or someone you’re casually dating, and he’s asking you to come over,
then it’s essential to consider your boundaries and comfort level.
If you’re not comfortable going to his place alone or if you’re unsure about his intentions,
it’s okay to ask for more information.
You can respond by saying,
“I’d like to, but I’m not sure. Can you tell me more about what you have in mind?”
or
“I’m not comfortable coming over right now, but we can hang out somewhere else if you’d like.”
3. Late Night Requests
Late-night requests can sometimes be a sign of more intimate intentions.
If the guy is asking you to come over late at night, it’s essential to proceed with caution.
If you’re not comfortable with that, it’s okay to decline politely.
You can respond by saying,
“I appreciate the invite, but I’m not comfortable coming over this late”
or
“I’m not able to come over right now, but we can plan something for another time.”
4. Suggest an Alternative
If going over to his place doesn’t feel right to you, suggest doing something else instead.
You could say,
“How about we meet up at a coffee shop?”
or
“I’m not able to come over right now, but we can hang out another time.”
This way, you’re still open to spending time together, but in a setting where you feel more comfortable.
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