It’s so flattering when a guy tells you he really likes your personality!
But what does that actually mean?
Is it a good thing or is he just trying to let you down easy?
A lot of times, when a guy says he likes your personality, it can be his way of saying he’s just not that physically attracted to you.
Ouch, I know. Guys tend to be a lot more focused on looks and physical attraction than girls are.
So if a guy compliments your personality, it might mean he thinks you’re a really cool, fun, smart person – but he’s just not that into you romantically.
Now, that’s not always the case!
Sometimes a guy genuinely does find your personality to be one of the things he likes most about you.
He might be super impressed by how funny, confident, or interesting you are.
And that can definitely be a sign that he’s interested in you as more than just a friend.
The best way to tell is to pay attention to how he acts around you.
Does he make lots of eye contact?
Does he go out of his way to talk to you and spend time with you?
Those are good signs that he’s into you for more than just your fun, charming personality.
But if he keeps you firmly in the “friend zone”, then he’s probably just not that physically attracted to you, even if he thinks you’re a great person.
The bottom line is, when a guy says he likes your personality, try not to read too much into it. It could go either way.
Just focus on being your awesome self, and the right guy who’s into all of you, not just your personality, will come along
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How To Respond When A Guy Says I like your Personality
How to Respond When a Guy Says He Likes Your Personality
When a guy tells you he really likes your personality, it can feel like a bit of a mixed message.
Is he into you, or is he just trying to let you down easy?
Here are some tips on how to respond:
First of all, don’t panic! This isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Lots of guys really do value personality over looks. So try not to assume the worst right away.
The best thing to do is ask him to clarify what he means.
You could say something like,
“Thanks, that’s really sweet of you to say. What do you like most about my personality?”
This gives him a chance to open up and explain exactly what he finds so appealing about you.
If he seems to be focusing a lot on your personality rather than your appearance, that could be a sign that he’s just not that physically attracted to you.
In that case, you might want to say something like,
“I appreciate that, but I’m curious – is there anything else you’re attracted to about me?”
That gives him a chance to be honest about where he’s at.
On the other hand, if he gets all flustered and shy when you ask him to explain, that could mean he really does have romantic feelings for you.
In that case, you could say something like, “Aw, you’re so sweet. I really enjoy spending time with you too.”
Keep it casual, but let him know you’re open to the idea of taking things to the next level.
No matter how he responds, try to stay positive. Getting hung up on whether a guy “likes you enough” isn’t going to help.
Just be confident in who you are, and focus on finding someone who appreciates all of you, personality and all.
More Ways To Respond
- Thanks, that’s really kind of you to say. What do you like most about my personality?”
- “I appreciate the compliment. Is there anything else you’re attracted to about me besides my personality?”
- “Aw, you’re so sweet. I really enjoy spending time with you too.”
- “That’s so nice of you to say. What is it about my personality that you find most appealing?”
- “Well, I certainly try to be a fun and interesting person to be around. Is that what you find most likable about me?”
- “Wow, thank you! I’d love to hear more about what you find so great about my personality.”
- “I’m really flattered that you like my personality. What do you think makes it so special?”
- “That’s so thoughtful of you to say. Can you give me an example of what you enjoy most about my personality?”
- “I appreciate the compliment! Do you think my personality is one of the main things that attracts you to me?”
- “Aw, shucks! What aspect of my personality do you find the most endearing or appealing?”
As a married wife, founder, and editor of SpouseMag.com – these guides are based on my own personal experiences, observations, research and insights. I am transparent about being inspired by the life and work of the two greatest experts in the relationship space – Dr. John and Julia Gottman, and Harville and Helen. They two are some of the strongest couples, researchers, authors, and counselors when it comes to marriage and relationships. My advice and guides are based on my insights and research, and they are not an alternative to professional advice.
